“People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don’t even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child—our own two eyes. All is a miracle.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
Mindfulness can’t be understood through reading self-help books or hearing about it from someone else. Mindfulness must be practiced on a daily basis to learn and receive the benefits from its use.
So how do you practice mindfulness?
Keep reading to learn 3 daily habits to start practicing to increase your daily mindfulness this week..
We are launching our brand new Relationship Coaching Group, a ten week program, beginning this month on October 24. As we reach more women with Borderline Personality Disorder through our coaching programs and advocacy, we have received requests for a focus-specific group on the topic of relationships. This is something I’m familiar with… before I married my husband we had gotten together and broken up and gotten back together about 20 times. My BPD had me all lovey-dovey one moment, and packing my bags the next. Considering my sketchy track record in men previously, this was actually a step up.
As I continued into recovery, my future husband came along for the wild ride. He had no idea what he was getting himself into. There were monumental fights, extreme depressed phases, self-injury, and a whole lot of break-ups. But he knew about my illness, he was willing to stick with me through it all, and he didn’t mistreat me. So eventually I settled down into recovery and gave in to a happy, stable relationship.
My point is, recovery and relationships go hand-in-hand. If you’re on the road to recovery but you’re lonely or heartbroken or just can’t seem to be the person you want to be when you’re with a partner, don’t sweat it. Mental illness and trauma can really interfere with relationships. There are ways to break the bad habits so you can build a relationship that is happy, healthy, and supportive…even if you still argue sometimes!
We are going to cover all this and more in our 10-Week Relationship Coaching Group. Each week we are going to meet on Wednesdays at 8:30 PM Eastern Standard Time. For an hour we are going to talk all about self-identity, what we want and how to get it, how to maintain and improve relationships, how to communicate when something’s bothering us, and much, MUCH more!
Register to join us by sending us a Cont act Form right here on our website. Let us know your name, that you’re interested in the relationship group beginning in October, and let us know if you’d like to pay up front or make weekly payments. The 10-Week group costs $20.00 USD per person, per week, for a total off $200.00 USD. We then send you a weekly invoice to your email address and a link to the video call. When it’s time for our session, you just click the link to call or join through a computer.
If you want to build some new habits, learn how to balance your needs with your partner’s needs, and create a solid foundation for a healthy relationship, please join us. We power through so much information on these sessions, so make sure to bring a notepad with you! See you in October, girls!!!!!
The New Year was originally dedicated to an ancient Roman god of gateways by the name of Janus (think of the word “January”… see the connection?). Janus had two faces, as a gate faces in and out, one looking backwards to the past and one looking forwards to the future. Hence he was also the god of new beginnings!
Greek and Roman mythology are one of my favorite study topics, but as you all know my TRUE passion is discussing mood disorders with my mental health tribe. So, naturally, when I think of Janus and how his two-faced self applies to our journey to recovery, I think about the importance of not just looking towards the future of 2018 but of reflecting on the previous year as well and the weights we are holding onto that could keep us living in 2017 longer than we need to.
Intrusive thoughts and memories of the past, including abuse; trauma; neglect; heartbreak; rejection; and failure.
Guilt over mistakes made, broken promises, and disappointing ourselves or other people.
Regretting decisions that led to upheaval, missed opportunities, and time wasted.
Blame towards ourselves and others, and the anger that comes with it.
These burdens are heavy; so heavy that they can become all we see. We lose sight of the light and the hope of today and tomorrow because we are so weighed down with the hurt and pain of yesterday. Getting control back over our future means looking towards our past first to deal with its demons, not ignoring the past and hoping it goes away eventually. That may work for a while, but it can be exhausting and ultimately lead to a blow-up. Spending some time to reflect on the past, the feelings and thoughts it brings up and the effects it has had on you is the first step, but it can’t be done alone or it will leave you feeling empty and depressed about the future.
You MUST combine your reflections with a soulful search for the meaning behind your life story. What priceless lessons have you learned from past experiences? How have they made YOU a better person? Mistreatment is never condonable, and suffering is never pleasant. But did you become a person who contributes to the world BECAUSE and DESPITE of it? Or has been holding you back from the true person you want to be? For those of us who are being held back by pasts of trauma or abuse, has that been robbing you of any joy for tomorrow? Are you missing something that you want back?
We can’t change the past. We can only accept that it happened, and we arrived through it to THIS moment. We have power over THIS moment. What will we do with it? We can hide from our pasts or we can use them to mold and shape a better future for ourselves and for other people in this world who need and want a better future with us. Just as we can’t shy away from the things of our past, we can’t shy away from the future. Approach today, and each day, with determination. With hope and faith that life throws us both good and bad things, but we persevere to hold the hands of our brothers and sisters and move forward into tomorrow knowing that WE ARE NOT ALONE.
Th symptoms of Borderline Personality are so much more than the words in the DSM. The symptoms of anger, despair, and emotional pain in the sick person are unbearable, and the pain of watching a loved one suffer is equally devastating. The fact that you are here means you have an idea of what’s going on, but it can be tough finding a professional that will acknowledge a diagnosis. Doing your own research is essential these days if you want to find out what’s really happening in a person who has this disorder.
9 Symptoms of Borderline Personality