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Why BPD Makes It Hard For Me To Accept Help

Why BPD Makes It Hard For Me To Accept Help

When loved ones intervened in my self-harm attempts, dysphoria made it hard for me to see or accept the help for what it was.  As they tried to remove the sharp object or called emergency services, I would scream and fight like a wild animal. At that moment I  truly...

Beginner’s Guide to Mindfulness

Beginner’s Guide to Mindfulness

A beginner's guide to mindfulness couldn't possibly teach you everything you need to know in order to master the art. Yet even a very basic understanding can give you amazing insight into your thoughts and emotions. Here are a few quick steps to get you started. What...

3 Reasons to Stop Avoiding Painful Feelings

3 Reasons to Stop Avoiding Painful Feelings

We often avoid painful feelings because... well because they are unpleasant. We numb them with substances or distract with activities or mindlessly scroll through social media. Distracting can help us get through tough times, but as a long-term problem-solving tactic,...

A Tough Day in Recovery

A Tough Day in Recovery

When All You Could Do was Make It Through What a day. Seemed like things began bombarding me and my recovery goals from the moment I woke up. A few times throughout the day I thought to myself, "Why not just quit today; why not just lay down and give up? This is too...

When BPD Leads to Rejection and Abandonment

When BPD Leads to Rejection and Abandonment

How we push people away when we have BPD THE BRUTAL TRUTH When BPD leads to abandonment and rejection, you learn quickly. Soon, you fear abandonment by all the people you love, and you start to see abandonment everywhere. To avoid being rejected, you push them away...

Finding Treatment that Works for BPD

FINDING TREATMENT THAT WORKS FOR BPD Before addressing the obstacles we may face DURING the treatment process, we must take a hard look at the difficulties of even finding treatment options.  Those of you who have been through multiple therapeutic attempts will know...

How to Change Your Mood by Checking Your Beliefs

How to Change Your Mood by Checking Your Beliefs

Thoughts have incredible power to change your mood.  What you believe about the stressful situations you are facing today will impact how strongly you feel and the actions you are likely to take.  If you believe you will fail, feelings of hopelessness increase, and...

Things to Say to Someone Who is Suicidal

Things to Say to Someone Who is Suicidal

*I will always make time for you*I love you*I care about you*You can talk to me about anything *You can always come to me for any reason *What we talk about stays between us*Is there something I can do for you right now? *Do you want to talk about your feelings?*I can...